I have been thinking about the ask that I received this morning and I just want to clarify something.
The concepts of being transethnic and transracial were first used by adoptees (sometimes they refer to themselves as “abductees”, which I fully support and want to apologize if I offend anyone by my use of the term “adoptee”). Many times, these adoptees are PoC who were adopted by white parents and they grew up navigating a very complex world. I do not want to speak for them, as they deserve to have their own voices heard, so I will just say this: I completely support their use of the terms “transracial” and “transethnic”.
And I think it is disgustingly, horribly racist and erasing that it has been co-opted by bored white kids who ~feel~ like their ~souls~ are a different race. Way to go, white kids. You just marginalized and erased a group that, hey, wouldn’t you know it, is already marginalized and erased. Way to be.
Just throwing that out there.
When I mention being a transracial adoptee, this is what I’m talking about. I’m not an adoptee appropriating other people’s oppression.
I’m getting wicked sick of these “transethnic” and “transraical” folks appropriating my experiences. I am the product of a racist system that was more interested in separating my mother from me than in supporting her so she could parent.
Being a transracial adoptee means never meeting some of your relatives that your white siblings have met, because they’d hurl racist abuse at you. It means looking at pictures of you and your family and joking about being the black sheep, when you’re crying inside. It’s your mother not knowing how to do your hair. It’s the suggestion to brush off racism and having your pain stay misunderstood. It’s knowing that plenty of your relatives don’t think of you as real family and don’t think you should get family heirlooms. It is lonely.
So, fuck these people who think they know. They fucking don’t. You never had people asking your mom if you were a “crack baby” or if she was going to give you back now that she had biological kids. You never had to know that your adoption fees were cheaper because you were Black and defective.
They will never fucking know what it is to live your entire life as an intimate outsider.
Hey, so, remember those voices of transracial adoptees I said we should listen to?
Yeah, this is one of them.
^important. Posting bc I’ve been trashing those racist appropriative assclowns & people need to know what the terms actually mean. I’ll include a summary in any future trash-talking posts so as to not further confuse the issue/erase these experiences.